New York City & Conneticut Holiday Adventure.

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A little back tracking to this past Christmas.. who doesn‚Äôt want to feel a little Christmas cheer in May ūüėČ I went on a 3 week North East adventure with my boyfriend, Alex. My family and I wanted to have … Continue reading

What to think about before moving in together!

That moment when you find yourself paying for essentially a closet at another house while you spend most of your time at your boyfriend or girlfriends house. Then you have “the talk” ¬†you know that should we move in together talk?! Many things can spark this conversations but finances seem to always be on the top of the list. “It just makes more sense to live together and save money than to live separately, when we are together all the time.” ¬†I get it, half the bills and rent is really nice. Along with watching and reading about all the celebrities shacking up and playing house with their loves, it may feel like all signs point to move¬† in together. I have been living with my boyfriend for 4 years now.¬† I have learned a lot and figured I would share. So here are some things to think about and some heads up on how life will change.¬† ūüėČ

  • ¬†Money should not be the number one reason to move in together. It is way more expensive and a much longer process to breakup while living together. I am not saying be negative and prepare for a breakup but just be realistic. I have watched many girlfriends have to live extra days and weeks with ex’s while having to deal with leases and moving out plans. The longer you live together the move you accumulate things together… well who gets the tv? ¬†This is the time to think with your head and not your heart for a minute .
  • ¬†The money talk: have a conversation on what each others expectations are. Is everything 50/50, is one person better with money than the other, whose names will be on utilities and whose duty is to have them paid on time each month? Having an open conversation before hand on these topics will eliminate possible frustration on either end when the situation arises. If one person makes more than the other, does that person have expectations from the other to make it up in other areas?

Once living together you naturally find each others roles in the house. Like I am a total bathroom and bedroom cleaner and Alex is all about the kitchen and living room. Or I buy all shower products, mostly because he would use one product for everything… that is not okay, guys!!

  • Perks: A perk¬† living with your love is you no longer have to do all the annoying house work. Who really likes to take the trash out… NOT ME! ¬†So, for the most part the bf takes the trash out and I dust. You also will always have someone to go home to, to have dinner with and to just be lazy with. You have a built in partner in crime,best friend your Clyde to your Bonnie all without a call or leaving your house.
  • ¬†Routine Adjustment: We all have our favorite little things we do that not everyone else does or even enjoys. For example I use to love waking up and getting my coffee and getting back into bed to watch the news. Well, that came to abrupt stop once Alex moved in. He usually sleeps later than me and finds it too disturbing to the TV on while he is sleeping. ¬†So I had to make a change. One thing I got him to get use to was TV before bed. He use to hate it but now I have got him to a point he likes to watch a show in bed before we fall asleep. Compromise babes!
  • So much stuff: ¬†When Alex moved in, I had a small heart attack because of the amount of stuff he had and how none of it was cute! My nice girly room was all of sudden taken over with BOY STUFF! ¬† I went around saying we need to eliminate this and this and this. Alex at the end of the day said “Stop eliminating all my stuff, I like it” So I grabbed the Jack Daniels rug and explained he can save it in storage for his man cave one day. ¬†Common sense when two people live together they accumulate A LOT and each person has their own belongings that they will not part with… damn squeaky computer chair… ¬†I try to have the rule , something in and something out. ¬†Make sure before moving in together there is enough space! Whose bed will you keep or dresser? Or are you both on the same page as the home decor goes. I am often told when I am decorating, ” don’t forget a MAN lives here”¬† Things to think about…
  • Making Love …Handles: We have all heard of that dreaded freshman 15 pounds but what about the love chub that is gained. Lets be real, living together¬† doesn’t help but my boyfriend is chef. ¬†When we first moved in together it ¬†was like “playing house” and you are both making everything really nice. I was making full breakfast and he was making gourmet dinners and life was great! Until all that eating caught up with me, I ended up gaining about 20 pounds and I was not feeling good about it! We grew up with different kinds of food in the house and going to the grocery store was pretty hilarious and frustrating.¬† We would be debating about what peas were better. It’s the little things I am trying to point out in this post. ¬†I finally made a change and thankfully ¬†Alex being a chef he¬† was able to change his cooking to Low Carb and overall a healthier lifestyle. Keep health in mind because you and your man or woman, want to¬† be a healthy sexy babes forever.
  • Bad Days: ¬†We all have our moments, no matter how perfect the couple. Once you live together there is very little running away that can be done to avoid an argument. Eventually you both have to go to bed or pass one another in the the kitchen. You have to address the issue and have clear communication. Try not to pick up bad habits of going to bed angry or kicking on another out of the bed.¬† Respect each others space at all times but especially during those heated moments. Just because you live together does not mean that you or your partner don’t need alone time or space to think.
  • Be a team! Being a team is the most important! Moving in together makes you two more of a¬† team than ever before. What one person does now in many ways effects the other, from emotions to money decisions. I can’t just pick up and leave, I have myself and Alex to think about. Be each others cheerleaders and biggest supporters. Times get tough and you are essentially riding on a roller coaster trying to stay on the same track through the¬† highs and lows of life together. Live, laugh and love together!

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Xo- A.

 

Lady Gaga Says She’s Submissive In Relationship With Taylor Kinney

Well we have all heard of the 50 shades of Grey series and BDSM. Dominatrix and submission is getting talked about openly more and more and I think that’s great. We can all think everyone is vanilla but more people are not and my thoughts are .. what ever makes you happy is great!!

Reading more into the article it has nothing to do with 50 Shade style submission but submission about taking care of your man. As women we portray that we are either damsels in distress or so independent we don’t need any help. Well, I think both are wrong if taken overboard, we need an even balance. Be a bad ass independent, I don’t need¬† you but choose to be here and also to be aware a man wants to feel like a man and you just being sweet caring wonderful woman that takes care of his needs. So doing little things like cooking breakfast for him and buying him a new pair of boxers, will leave him appreciating you but not be confused that you can’t live without him.¬† I have been in a 5 year relationship and come from a very strong independent single mother, this took time for me to balance.I am still practicing! The article below talks about the power house independent¬† Lady Gaga who kicks off her shoes and cooks for her man on her down time. She admits in the article she enjoys taking care of him and not being in control all the time. Check out the article below….

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Lady Gaga might be in charge when it comes to her professional life, but she is apparently the submissive one in her personal life.

Gaga opened up about her role in her relationship with Taylor Kinney, whom she has been dating since 2011, while chatting with the hosts of Sirius XM’s “The Morning Mash Up.”

“Oh yeah, he’s [Kinney], like, totally in charge,” she responded when asked about being submissive. “When I’m home I’m, like, shoes are off, I’m making him dinner, you know? He has a job, too, and he’s really busy. I’m in charge all day long. The last thing I wanna do is tell him what to do. We’re just really good friends. It’s not good for relationships to tell men what to do, female listeners who are out there.”

Gaga hints at submission in her new music video, “G.U.Y.,” which is an acronym for “Girl Under You.”

“In the second scene, it’s the girl under you in a more kind of sexual and submissive way,” she explained on “Mash Up.” “And, then at the end of the video, it’s really about the ultimate power that women can feel in being on the bottom. … Sometimes it’s nice to not have to be in charge all the time. It’s okay to let other people take charge as long as you’re smart and cunning and have your wits about you.”

As for Kinney, he talked about their romance to E! News in January, saying: “I’m reserved. She’s not. For whatever reason, it works. It works and that’s that.”

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