Now we all know the wedding day is all about the both of you… but let’s be real… the bride is the one that is making that day happen. I am sure there are some exceptions out there. 🙂
When wedding planning began, I asked Alex what are some things he would like… his response ” I like when guys wear vans.” Well, Isn’t that helpful…
Then when it came to his attire for the day, he became full-blown groomzilla. Sorry, but a lime green tie isn’t happening. He is really fighting for his lime green tie… when I brought up the fact that my girls will not be wearing anything close to lime green, his response was classic… ” sorry, not everyone can look as good as me in lime green… but I am wearing it.” This is coming from the guy that was wearing socks and Birkenstocks with basketball shorts…. which made him lose all credibility.
When it came to getting his thoughts on a wedding dress… he told me I can wear whatever I want, because he is going to wear what he wants.
I finally got him to look on Pinterest with me…. well,that was interesting. He would point out a mermaid cut …..Alex: ” what is that, why all this fluff shit ( as he waves his hands around the photo)
Me: Okay on to the next…..
him: Why are there flowers… that’s dumb…and the next… I mean that’s not bad…
me: What do you like about it ?
Him: I don’t know… it isn’t as bad as the others.
me: how about this nice low back?
him: I mean.. you’re naked…. ( coming from a guy that has never expressed me having to be modest)
me: WHAT….. well, you no longer have say!
Sums it all up lol.
I have realized that Alex has no idea about weddings and he has realized this too and finally said..” “Babe, it seems I do better when options are presented and I just say yes or no.”
So true… when wedding talking with my girlfriend and fellow bride planning a wedding, she was having the same issues with her groom. They either have no idea or elaborate ideas they won’t let go of.
A strategy is then needed…. only present what you would be comfortable with and then it gives him some freedom to pick within boundaries. 🙂
With Alex’s busy chef schedule I ended up making a secret pinterest board for the both of us and downloaded the app on his phone. This way I could pin all the things I wanted to run across him and he could check it out on his downtime.
I started to feel bad that once he came home, I started asking so many wedding questions or trying to show him things…. that was a little over whelming for him. The board helped solve that problem.
He actually really likes this pinterest board for us and has even suggested making one that is called ” done deal” which means we approved it and that is what we are going with.
I want to make sure that our wedding day represents both of us but I want to be realistic in the fact if I let him have a free range… it would be a total mess. 🙂
Some tips on wedding planning with your man:
1. ask him to describe what he has always thought of when thinking of his wedding day.
2. Get the vibe…. use adjectives to get a description down. Whimsical, industrial, rustic… etc
3. Create a Pinterest board for both of you… and explain to him how it works.
4. Make a list of what’s most important for him. Alex wanted great food and venue… he said he wanted to feel “wowed.”
5. Don’t provide ideas or pictures of things you are not willing to have part of your day.
6. Have fun and remember it’s suppose to be a wedding of two loves and not a birthday party. 🙂
Happy planning 😉